(10) Put what you do in the best position to help your spouse do the best thing.
(9) If you see a situation coming, be proactive by taking corrective action before it becomes a problem.
(8) Make sure anything you do is smooth, minimizing backlash and sticky behavior.
(7) Don’t interfere with what your spouse needs to do.
(6) Sense and act in the direction of change in your spouse’s needs.
(5) Sense and act on the speed of change in spouse’s needs.
(4) Don’t keep changing if your spouse is about to be satisfied and reach an equilibrium.
(3) Realize there are possibly several different situational problems and select to act on the most severe.
(2) Optimize goals continuously with significant feedback.
(1) React quickly to hurtful conditions.